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"Faith is not a good reason to believe in any one thing. It's a bad reason to believe in everything. Faith is not synonymous with any one idea; it is synonymous with any strongly held idea, true or not. But one thing faith is not synonymous with is a logically justified idea."

March 21, 2010


Let's get this straight right now. Love is not a force of nature. Love is not some all loving, all knowing, all pleasant supernatural element. It simply is the emotional response we get from chemical reactions caused by physical stimuli. That sounds non-romantic, and it should. Even the most glorious things in life will look less colorful under the microscope. That's life. Deal with it.

Here's the good part. Sometimes you'll get fortunate enough to have a good date. Then you might possibly be fortunate enough to keep that going for a while. Perhaps you'll be able to get to know each other without hating each other, in which case, congrats because that's further than most people get. Finally, you might get lucky and fall in love. It's a long shot, but there's a chance.

Still, throughout all of this romance, keep a clear head. Most dates end less than satisfactory. Most relationships end before the 6 month mark. And most relationships do not end in love. Even those couples who become married rarely stay married. The odds are against you ever finding long lasting love. But that doesn't mean it's impossible. Keep your head up and look for the right person. Then just take it one day at a time. No need to rush it. You have your whole life to screw this up, don't rush.


Gordon W F Young said...


I might have to disagree with you on this one. I agree with the non-mystical part that media is constantly trying to sell us: the one-and-only-forever-and-ever crap don't work with reality.

On the other hand, I would argue that love can and should be a universal concept. I strongly beleive you can love anyone - what that requires is a shift in attitude within yourself.

I'm drawing a lot from Buddhist theory here - if a person is enlightened (free from a concept of self, without pretension or desire, etc) then they are able to love all things universally.

Sounds highfalutin but it sounds rational on closer analysis - if you recognise and truely accept that people are fundementally the same, that all negative behaviour springs from ignorance rather than evil and that people are all trying to acheive good ends (though often with a poor idea of what a 'good' end is) then it is very hard to hate others. Understanding is the basis of trust, trust is the basis of intimacy and intimacy the basis of love.

Acheiving love with an individual is difficult, make no mistakes about it, but iron out enough of your own issues and it becomes significantly easier to deal with theirs.

SgtHaile said...

I think this concept of being able to love anyone given that we make an internal change within ourselves is a bit flawed, because it assumes that such internal changes are capable. Sure, in some situations people change the way they are to be with the ones they love. But in more extreme cases, this probably won't work at all. Why bring up the extreme cases? Because you said "Anyone"... and that's an absolute.

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